Checklist: Can I Have A Relationship With My Father If He Is Hurting My Mother?
This checklist will help you identify if you can have a relationship with your father if he is hurting your mother (or his partner).
As daughters age, they may learn that they are not willing to tolerate the behavior from their fathers that their mothers tolerated, excused, defended, or maybe even enjoyed.
Watching one parent hurt another physically or emotionally has an impact. It changes how you see each parent and how you see yourself. It makes your home feel like a confusing minefield. A *sometimes controversial* quote says, “The best thing a man can do for his children is to love their mother.” I like this version better: The best thing a parent can do for their child is treat the other parent with kindness and respect.
This checklist will help you identify if you can have a relationship with your father if he is hurting your mother (or his partner).